How to Include the Father of the Groom

While tradition places a great deal of importance on the parents of the bride, modern practices ensure that the father of the groom isn't left out.

Instructions

STEP 1: Ask him to tell you about any family traditions that you could include in the wedding and reception.

STEP 2: Give him an opportunity to chip in for the marriage license, officiant's fee, corsages, boutonnieres, bride's bouquet, groomsman's gifts, liquor and/or music - it's tradition.

STEP 3: Invite him to attend a couple's shower and bachelor party.

STEP 4: Give him the honor of hosting the rehearsal dinner.

STEP 5: Delegate to him a special ceremonial role in the wedding, such as the lighting of the Unity Candle or the Scripture reading.

STEP 6: Reserve him a place in the receiving line after the groom's mother.

STEP 7: Ask him to deliver a toast after the brides' parents at the reception and to help organize the bar - especially if he is footing the bill.

STEP 8: Grant him a dance with the bride.

STEP 9: Serve the parents of the groom the fifth and sixth pieces of cake (after the newlywed couple and the bride's parents) as a show of respect.

Tips & Warnings

--Consider Dad's interests, free time and your relationship with him when seeking his help.
--Partner the dads up on tasks if they make a good team, or assign them specific duties if they're more the "go solo" types.
--In a Jewish wedding, the father escorts the groom down the aisle and offers a blessing

 

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