How do I pick my best man and groomsmen?

We can give you a checklist of what's expected of your groomsmen so you can pick your best man that will do a great job.

Whether this is your brother, cousin, father or childhood friend, he should be a close friend who will be there for you to lean on during the whole wedding process.

Select someone who will be respectful, responsible and supportive. Here's what's expected of your best man. He should:

• Provide moral support and helpful guidance every step of the way.

• Organize and carry out the bachelor party.

• Make sure the groom gets to the ceremony at the right time.

• Be responsible for the wedding bands until they're placed on fingers.

• Stand next to you during the ceremony.

• Be an official witness and sign your marriage certificate.

• Prepare and deliver a well-rehearsed, tasteful speech at the reception.

• Optional: present the clergy with a "donation" on the groom's behalf.

When choosing the groomsmen, you should follow the same guidelines. Remember, the point is to strengthen your friendships, not to hurt people's feelings. Be tactful when selecting your grooms party but remember, this is ultimately your day and you should surround yourself with close friends and loved ones. Traditional duties for groomsmen include:

• Provide support and guidance during the engagement and wedding.

• Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

• Arrive at the ceremony in a punctual manner ... everyone must BE ON TIME.

• Usher guests to their seats.

• Depending upon the seating arrangement and style of reception you arrange, they should be at the bridal table.

• Smile for a really long time as your pictures are taken.

Generally, there should be the same number of groomsmen as there are bridesmaids and this may mean that there are some people who might feel left out. If you find that you have too many friends to choose from and there's not room for everyone to be a groomsman, you can also assign honorary positions for the ceremony.

Create new duties for friends such as being an additional usher, reading a passage during the ceremony or acting as a valet to help you get ready for the ceremony. This can help avoid hurt feelings and let everyone be involved in your special day.

 

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